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Introduction (2 minutes)

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Ask Crew members to share their favorite points from the talk. What phrase or moment did they relate to the most?

Icebreaker: Reflection or Conversation Starter or Virtual Icebreaker (5 minutes)

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Conversation Starters (Choose One)
  • What's something you did this week that you feel proud of?
  • What did you eat for breakfast?
  • Name the best book you’ve ever read.
  • What’s your morning routine?
  • What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
  • If your life was a story, what would the title be?
Virtual Icebreakers (5 minutes)

Preaching Game - Choose random items and allow individuals to find ways to encourage others using that item. (Pick 2-3 volunteers)

Show-and-Tell - Pick an object in your home that has significance for you, something with a funny story behind it, anything unique, or something you've used to simply pass the time.

Crew Discussion

Living Together: Repairing Relationships

Pastor Rich Wilkerson Jr.

Continuing the Conversation
Last Crew's Call to Action

God calls for us to forgive while maintaining boundaries necessary to steward and nurture our souls. This week, lean in to the wisdom of Solomon and study the book of Proverbs to help you develop tools for cultivating Godly relationships while asking God for the courage to forgive. Don’t forget to check out additional resources at


As The ark of the Lord came into the city of David, Michal the daughter of Saul looked out of the window and saw King David leaping and dancing before the Lord, and she despised him in her heart. And they brought in the ark of the Lord and set it in its place, inside the tent that David had pitched for it. And David offered burnt offerings and peace offerings before the Lord. And when David had finished offering the burnt offerings and the peace offerings, he blessed the people in the name of the Lord of hosts and distributed among all the people, the whole multitude of Israel, both men and women, a cake of bread, a portion of meat, and a cake of raisins to each one. Then all the people departed, each to his house.

2 Samuel 6:16-19

References: 1 Samuel 18:20-21, 1 Samuel 18:25-29, 2 Samuel 6:23, 2 Samuel 3:12-15, Hebrews 12:14-15

Main Idea

Have you ever had a falling out with a friend? There may have been instant chemistry when you first met, but it ultimately led to a chemical combustion. With each passing day, the list of grievances gets longer and we tend to focus on the damage rather than the healing. For example, you may not be in as close proximity to that person, so you don’t have insight into what they’re thinking and feeling and you’re left to fill in the blank. Or maybe you’re feeling the social pressure to keep up with appearances and act like friends, so you choose to ignore the giant elephant in the room. Or you prioritized other relationships and you lost the intimacy and trust that you once had as your friendship changed from a deep bond to a superficial connection, which begs the question: could this relationship ever be repaired? If you’ve ever experienced this, you understand how separation, external pressure, and additional relationships can jeopardize a marriage or relationships. Thankfully, we serve a God with resurrection power, who brings healing and refreshment to our souls and is a beacon of light in the darkness. When we lean on God, he turns the mountain into a molehill and redemption is possible.

Healthy relationships are made up of two words: repentance and forgiveness.

1. Repentance

Healthy relationships are made up of two healthy people. They require consistent repentance. We are called to own our shortcomings, and apologize not just verbally, but with our actions. Although it is not easy to admit when we are at fault, God’s grace is bigger than our fear of vulnerability and we can be confident in taking the next step to facing reconciliation.

Owning your part is like looking in the mirror and being frank with yourself on where you fall short.
Acknowledging fault leads to apologizing. You can walk in confidence that God will equip you with taking the next step.
Reverse it. Once you have acknowledged and apologized, you can ask God to transform your heart and your actions will follow.

Repentance first starts with Owning, Apologizing, and Reversing it (OAR)

Think back to a difficult moment where you decided to repent to repair a relationship. What prompted you to repent?

2. Forgiveness

Where repentance brings us closer to God, forgiveness pushes and allows us to look more like Jesus. We have been fully forgiven through the blood and sacrifice of Jesus, giving us the ability and strength to forgive others. Forgiveness is not contingent on whether the person deserves it or not; rather, it is an inner choice. Reflection with God helps release past offenses and allows his peace to come into our hearts. When forgiveness is a proactive choice in our relationships, growth is present and progress flows from that.

Forgiveness is letting go of the fantasy of having a different past
Forgiveness is not solely for another person, but also for ourselves and God
Forgiven people need to be forgiving people

Forgiveness first starts with Openness, Acknowledgment, and Release (OAR)

Why can giving forgiveness sometimes feel hardest towards those closest to us?


We’ve heard the saying  “hurt people, hurt people,” which is a reminder that all of us have sinned and have been sinned against by people we love the most. Relationships require hard work but we don’t need to work through it alone. God has given us the tools we need for reconciliation and it begins with the grace and forgiveness we receive through His Son, Jesus.  God has made peace with us and is calling us to make peace in our home.

Call To Action

Maybe there’s a relationship (in your marriage, close family, friend or co-worker) that needs to be repaired.  This week, take time in prayer to ask God to fill you with His Holy Spirit and to give you a heart of repentance and forgiveness to help repair that relationship.


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