Our hearts were made to heal by the love and power of Jesus. He wants us to trust him with the broken pieces of our heart and allow him to restore us.
Heartbreaks are the worst. They can make you feel sad, alone, angry, even like something just got ripped out of your heart. Sometimes the wound and the pain are so heavy that we keep carrying it with us for a long time, even years.
But God doesn’t want us to keep holding on to that pain for all of our lives. Just like Pastor Rich wrote in his book Single and Secure, “Hearts were made to heal. It’s not easy, it doesn’t happen overnight, and there might be some things that don’t ever fully go away. But if you turn to God, you can find divine healing and comfort from the heartbreak you’ve experienced.”
Some people say that time heals all wounds, but in reality if it’s not combined with the healing power of God, all time truly does is hide them. But they eventually show up again and it affects our lives and our relationships in ways we couldn’t even imagine.
Let God bind up your wounds
Psalm 147:3 says that God heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Binding an injury provides a safe place for it to heal. So if you are going through a season of heartbreak, the question is, what is the place you are taking your wounds to?
God is the best place for your heart to heal. The process might take time, but you can be sure that he is there with you, consoling you, protecting you, supporting you, sustaining you and filling you with his love.
How can you handle heartbreak?
Pastor Rich talks in his book Single & Secure about 4 steps that can help you heal your heart from a breakup:
1. Recognize your pain
Don’t try to hide it, avoid it or run from it. Be honest with yourself about how it makes you feel and reach out for help; firstly with God but also with friends, leaders or even a therapist. There’s no shame in asking for help and there is no rush for your healing to happen either.
2. Resolve to improve your future
This refers to making a firm commitment to a chosen path. To look at the course and stick with it even when you can’t see progress overnight, but rather choosing to trust God and his healing power in your heart throughout time.
3. Rebuild your future
Let yourself heal and restrict yourself from falling into the temptation of filling the hole with distractions or other relationships. Look forward to the future by filling yourself with God, with healthy perspectives about relationships, with a realistic vision of a romantic relationship and with grace for yourself.
4. Restore your heart
If you are not restored by God, you’ll tend to relapse by yourself. Allow him to restore the broken pieces of your heart and change the ending of your story.
If you are going through a season of heartbreak I want to encourage you to trust God, to be vulnerable with him about the pain you are going through and allow him to be the healer of your heart. It might take some time, but I promise you, it’s worth it!