Impulsivity, almost every day there's a movie, song or book about a character who dropped everything on a hunch to get their dream life. These stories tell us that the true answers in life are found by following our instincts. It may be tempting to follow the same model to solve or avoid all our problems. However, many times these emotional and, oftentimes, irrational decisions can lead to regret and pain. In the Book of Esther, we find an example of the effects our impromptu choices could have. King Xerxes, after having a fight with his wife and a little too much to drink with his friends, made the choice to remove his wife, Vashti, from her position as queen. Later, after sobering-up and calming down, he realized the consequences of what he’d done, having to start a quest for a new queen. We see Xerxes, by acting on his feelings and under peer pressure, ended up confusing himself and the entire nation. Now you may think, Didn't it work out in the end? But the good from the story came out of Esther's obedience, and God's ability to create purpose out of every situation. There was still wreckless fallout due to Xerxes' choices that probably could have been avoided. When we turn the mirror on ourselves, we may remember the times in our own lives when fleeting emotions led our actions. We were then left with regret or complications that would've been easier to deal with had we just shifted our perspective towards God.
Psychology Today published "When You Should Never Make a Decision," a piece with simple tools to help make difficult decisions without giving emotions full control. As Christians, we can adapt these tools to our decision-making process to strengthen our spiritual connection, taking our situation to God so we can make wise choices:
Sure, not every decision requires us to be overly serious. After all, there are spur of the moment choices that can lead to fun, unplanned adventures. But when we allow room for God to shift our perspective and we’re intentional with our decisions-making, thats when we discover true rewards.