The Lie of Being Single on Valentine's Day

February 14, 2022
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The biggest lie of being single on Valentine’s day is that you are alone, and need another person to be complete.

February just started, and you are probably already feeling overwhelmed by all the ads and commercial attention around Valentine’s day. For people who are in a relationship right now, it might be an exciting season to celebrate their significant other.

But for single people, it can actually be an awkward month that comes with a lot of pressure from society. Reminding you that you are “still alone” and that you should "be with someone by now." As a matter of fact, you might be told that something is “wrong with you” if you haven’t found the love of your life yet.

That kind of pressure will only leave you feeling discouraged — almost like you are missing out on something. It’s even harder when perhaps you just ended a relationship, and you are trying to heal the broken pieces of your heart. But trust me, there is hope for you, even when it hurts.

I know how difficult Valentine’s day can be and how the feeling of despair can overcome your mind at times. How you see pictures of your friends that are in a relationship, how happy they look. And then you go and ask yourself “why can’t I have that?”

But I am here to tell you that your thoughts on how singleness is a synonym for being lonely and defeated are all a lie.

How to celebrate love while being single?

Joshua 1:9 says: “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

Society, social media, movies, they all might make you feel like you are alone if you don’t have a partner. But that is a lie. You have never been alone, God has always been there for you. And just the fact that you don’t have a partner in this season of your life doesn’t mean that you are not deserving of receiving and celebrating love.

As a matter of fact, you do have someone who loves you unconditionally and wants to celebrate your love not just on one day, or even one month, but every single day of your life. His name is Jesus.

He loves you with an everlasting love. He remains faithful to you no matter what you do or don’t do. He longs for you, and wants to draw you closer to him. (Jeremiah 31:3). He wants to remind you how beautiful you are and how crazy he is about you.

So, instead of feeling disheartened for the next days to come, why don’t you make it an intentional goal to draw closer to God? To seek for his love and his presence.

What if you stop believing the lie of being single on Valentine’s day and begin to embrace the beautiful truth that God is the love of your life? You’ll probably begin to see your single season for what it is, a joyful place where you are loved and complete in God.

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